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Should Our Daughters Come to Our (Gay) Wedding?

Our daughters (8 and 10) think we already are married. We had a commitment ceremony almost 20 years ago. When we head to City Hall to "make it legal," wouldn't it just confuse them if we ask them to come along? Read More...

Published Tue, Nov 05 2013 10:04 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, homosexuality, Marriages, Highlights

Parental Quandary: Do Siblings Need to Fight Physically?

An only child asks if it's inevitable that siblings battle, punch and hit. Read More...

Published Fri, Apr 20 2012 10:16 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: Uncategorized, Siblings, fighting, sibling rivalry, hitting, brothers, sibling disagreements, sisters, quarreling

A Stay-at-Home Dad’s Dilemma, When the Marriage Ends

Readers, particularly stay-at-home fathers after they've been divorced, respond to the Times article "Wall Street Mothers, Stay-Home Fathers" with their stories. Read More...

Published Thu, Dec 12 2013 11:16 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, _featured, Children and Childhood, Divorce, Separations and Annulments, Men and Boys, Marriages, Work-Life Balance, Highlights

Why I Stopped Giving Hair Advice to White Moms of Brown Kids

I still wish a white adoptive mom would ask me about black haircare. But I understand why they don't. Read More...

Published Thu, May 28 2015 5:17 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Adoptions, Hair, Blacks, Highlights

Speaking Out Against Autism Speaks, Even if It Means No Ice Cream

An ice-cream-cone-size donation to a charity I disagree with isn’t much — but it’s too much. Read More...

Published Thu, Jun 04 2015 5:10 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: Autism, parenting, Philanthropy, Highlights, Autism Speaks, New York City Marathon

*** Feeding Killed My Focus on Work. I Don’t Miss It.

In our race to keep up with men, we women have forgotten the joys that are given only to us. Read More...

Published Tue, Jun 04 2013 1:39 PM by Motherlode

Filed under: Uncategorized, parenting, Women and Girls, Work-Life Balance, Jones, Paul Tudor

‘Yo, I’m Driving. I’ll Text You When It’s Safe.’

I couldn’t help but wonder, if he went for his phone with me right there, what would he do when he had his license and I was no longer in the car, watching his every move? Read More...

Published Wed, Sep 25 2013 7:55 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, smartphones, Teenagers and Adolescence, Highlights, AT&T Inc|T|NYSE, AT&T Inc, Apple Inc, Herzog, Werner, Apple Inc|AAPL|NASDAQ, Driver Distraction and Fatigue, Text Messaging

Even the Democratic Caucus Can Fail to Accommodate Pregnancy

Primarily Democrats and President Obama continue to push for the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, but a Democratic representative who is pregnant cannot get an exception on voting rules. Read More...

Published Mon, Nov 17 2014 1:48 PM by Motherlode

Filed under: discrimination, Pregnancy and Childbirth, House of Representatives, Highlights, Democratic Party, Duckworth, L Tammy

Party Rules for Birthdays

Evonne Lack was left wondering what to do when her 5-year-old daughter didn't get invited to a classmate's birthday party. Read More...

Published Wed, May 26 2010 6:25 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: Uncategorized, birthdays, Evonne Lack

The Crazy, Intense Schedule of Competitive Youth Soccer? Bring It On

Why do we spend thousands of dollars a year on team fees? Why do we shuttle her to the field three to five days a week, 50 weeks a year? Why do we organize weekends around game schedules? Because it's worth it. Read More...

Published Mon, Oct 07 2013 11:31 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Soccer, Children and Childhood, Athletics and Sports, Highlights