November 2014 - Motherlode - The Network of Care

‘Not Rescuing’ Our Kids Shouldn’t Mean Letting Them Flounder

I understand why so many of the smartest women I know are proudly carrying the no-rescue flag. Hovering and rescuing isn't a good way to raise kids. But do we really need to leave them to flounder alone? Read More...

Published Tue, Nov 04 2014 11:59 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Highlights

Glossy Photo Cards, Highlighting Grief

This is not a campaign to end the photo card. But the year our daughter died, it would have been so much kinder to send something else. Read More...

Published Sat, Nov 29 2014 4:59 PM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Grief (Emotion), Holidays and Special Occasions, Death and Dying, Highlights

Traveling Solo With Children, and Playing the Deployment Card

With my husband deployed, my days of team man-on-man defense are over. I'm playing zone with two toddlers, and traveling, as we will this week, is the hardest game of all. Read More...

Published Tue, Nov 25 2014 8:38 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Babies and Infants, Thanksgiving Day, Highlights, United States Defense and Military Forces, Deployment Diary

The Child Who Declares ‘I Want to Be Rich’

It's a statement that makes some parents uncomfortable — what are we teaching them, if that's the goal? It's still worth talking about honestly. Read More...

Published Thu, Nov 06 2014 6:21 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Personal Finances, Highlights, The Opposite of Spoiled, Reality Television, Jealousy and Envy

Slower Cabs, and Safer Children: New York City Reduces Speed Limit to 25

The families of young victims of traffic violence advocated for a slower speed limit in New York City, and won. Not everyone is happy about it. Read More...

Published Fri, Nov 07 2014 11:28 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Children and Childhood, Traffic Accidents and Safety, Deaths (Fatalities), Highlights, Speed Limits and Speeding

Our Real ‘Mommy’ (and ‘Daddy’) Problem: Your Children Are Your Problem

What happens when children are considered the adorable lifestyle choice of a nation of "mommies?" No one else needs to worry about the needs of those children—or of any children. Read More...

Published Mon, Nov 10 2014 12:20 PM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Children and Childhood, Labor and Jobs, Women and Girls, Highlights

A Soon-to-Be Grandma, Ready to Learn

This spring, my older daughter announced that she was pregnant. And I realized almost immediately that I knew nothing about today's birthing or parenting issues. I had a lot of catching up to do. Read More...

Published Wed, Nov 12 2014 8:48 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Grandparents, Pregnancy and Childbirth, Highlights

Bittersweet Sixteen

There are lots of milestones as kids move through adolescence: 10, when you enter double digits; 13 when you become a teenager; 18 when you finish high school. But when you are a kid with a driver’s license and access to a car, 16 is a game changer. Read...

Published Fri, Nov 14 2014 6:02 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Teenagers and Adolescence, Highlights, Age, Chronological

Quandary: Between Unknown Cousins and the Children’s Table, Thanksgiving Can Be Hard for Kids

Now is the moment to prepare children for Thanksgiving: show pictures of past gatherings, remind them of the names that go with faces and talk about things like interrupting, playing with younger cousins, new foods and appreciating gifts but not expecting...

Published Mon, Nov 17 2014 11:08 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, advice, Thanksgiving Day

Three Girls? ‘I Feel Sorry for Their Father’

Almost everywhere we go— a hike on a mountain trail, a restaurant, an art museum-- unsolicited comments about the same sex of my children follow. Read More...

Published Wed, Nov 19 2014 9:17 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: gender, parenting, Women and Girls, Highlights

H Is for Helicopter, G Is For Guilt — What’s Your Modern Parent Letter?

If Q is for Quinoa, E is for Equipped (for Everything) and M is for Meltdown, what's your nominee for the modern parent's alphabet? Read More...

Published Thu, Nov 20 2014 11:47 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Highlights

When a Teacher Is Arrested for Child Pornography, Students Will Talk

When a teacher at my children's elementary school was arrested, the school sent an email asking parents to have older children keep quiet to protect the younger kids. But it's impossible to put a stop to playground talk. Read More...

Published Sun, Nov 02 2014 4:37 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: Highlights

Intensive Thanksgiving

Before he lost his ability to speak, one of my son’s favorite questions was, "Mommy, what are you thankful for?" Over the Thanksgiving we spent in the intensive care unit, I continued to answer the question he could no longer ask. Read More...

Published Wed, Nov 26 2014 9:27 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Thanksgiving Day, Highlights

Covering the Ferguson Verdict Protests, With Kids in the Minivan

My 5-year-old has become a veteran of the protests I often cover as a journalist, so much so that she has her own explanations. “Did they shoot someone again, Mama?” she asked. “His parents must be very, very sad. It's like that boy in the pictures...

Published Tue, Nov 25 2014 1:01 PM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Martin, Trayvon, Highlights, Demonstrations, Protests and Riots, Mexico, Brown, Michael (1996-2014), Ferguson (Mo), Police Brutality, Misconduct and Shootings, Union Square (Manhattan, NY)

Raising Invisible Kids: Not Everyone Needs to Be Famous

So many young people think: Why would I want to work backstage when I can vie to be the front person? But "backstage" work (literally or metaphorically) can lead to a more fulfilling and even more successful life. Read More...

Published Wed, Nov 05 2014 7:48 AM by Motherlode

Filed under: parenting, Highlights, Reality Television

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